8 Signs It’s A First Date, According To A Bartender Who’s Seen It All

Discussion in ‘ Off-Topic ‘ started by b00gerflick3r , Sep 11, Log in or Sign up. Can you date a bartender? Messages: Trophy Points: Hit the poll and give a reason either way I have my own thoughts and experiences 32 years old.

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There’s more to tending bar than just making drinks; you gotta monitor the room and make sure people are behaving themselves. This means watching out for people who look like they need to escape, or if someone is acting too aggressive toward another person. Unsurprisingly, dates can turn sour really quickly, and bar staff are often the only ones who can intervene. PodoTheGreat asked forlorn lovers of Reddit: People who have ordered a bars “safe word” drink to get out of a bad situation, what was your date like and how did the staff help?

Why do men do this? Had a creeper at a hotel bar who wouldn’t leave me alone despite my best efforts to ignore him.

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But for every great date, there are at least a handful of train wrecks. So who better to ask about the ingredients of a good date than the bartender himself? One of the biggest train wreck first dates I ever saw was a man in his late thirties and a girl in her early twenties. This deal is worth a million dollars! So her exit strategy was totally a fake phone call situation. Personally I would go for the drink that I can sip on like a Sazerac with rye.

Then when it comes to the food, stay away from anything really fussy or messy like pasta. So mix up the formula and just try to be yourself. Pick a place to meet that you are comfortable with and also think about the night of the week you go. On a personal level, I would say that you do not want to sit at the bar on a first date.

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For those of us who are single and looking for real love, going to the bar is more than just a fun way to enjoy a night out with friends. The bar represents a world of possibility—at least in theory. In reality, it tends to lead to too much time in dead-end conversations or something resembling conversations with the wrong people.

k members in the bartenders community. Third table is a guy in town for a week, dropping his kid off for his first year at college, and just hanging around.

But they say that bartenders are often ” players”. Because it is easier for them to get girls due to all the attention they get. Don’t know in how far this could be true.. Well if we always listened to things “they say,” we wouldn’t be going very far in life. I mean there’s just as likely a chance that they guys worth it, why miss out on an opportunity because it might go bad?

No one can predict the future or tell you what someone’s all about – except that someone. No harm in going on a couple dates to find out, at least there’s be no regrets. By the way, the only time I didn’t take that risk, is with my current boyfriend.

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This is one guy you’ll want to know. Some would say that Wells has the most important job on the show — making drinks and serving as a pseudo therapist to some of the contestants — but how did he get here? Wells first came on the reality TV screen on season 12 of The Bachelorette. Although JoJo Fletcher wasn’t his match, he won over fans with his sweet personality and headed to Paradise for season three. He had a connection with Danielle Maltby from Nick Viall’s season of The Bachelor , but it ultimately didn’t work out.

During the first three seasons of BIP , the beloved Jorge who now owns his own tour company was the bartender.

the conflicts that arise when nine-to-fivers start dating the bartender. This was a guy who had nothing but smiles and high fives for me.

So you want to be a bartender? Yeah those spontaneous date ideas that you have, throw them away now. That last minute weekend break in Rome? Not going to happen. But think about it another way, flights are cheaper during the week winning! Your S. Following on from point number three, your partner is used to being in the spotlight. This will come in handy when introducing them to your friends and family, especially to your Great Aunt Mildrid who is just dying to get his opinion on her knitted cat jumpers….

No amount of aftershave, perfume or cologne will cover up the smell that they bring home with them after work. A unique mix of stale beer, spilt cocktails, and Jagermeister.

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Needless to say, the bartender working that night was sociable especially once I showed an interest in her work and craft and overall it was a good time. A year or so later, I came back to the bar one night to meet some other friends. Once again, she was working there and seemed happy to see me. We caught up a bit, and much to my surprise, comped me for one of my drinks, which was sweet and generous of her.

This back-and-forth carried on throughout the rest of last year. We both love talking mixology and different liquors and liqueurs.

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When I think of the phrase “first date,” several things immediately come to mind — jitters, small talk, and drinks. During a first date, you’re focused on getting to know this perfect stranger, being charming, and enjoying yourself, but you might also be distracted by thinking of how many people around you are wondering if you guys are on a first date. Well, they might not be wondering — they might know! There are tell-tale signs signs it’s a first date, according to bartenders. Of course, obviously being on a first date isn’t a bad thing.

In fact, it can sometimes earn you goodwill from your bartender in the form of an extra stiff pour! While the bartender is mixing up your Greyhound or Tennessee Mule, they’re also noting your body language, conversation, and general vibe. I love people-watching as much as the next gal, and I love trying to scope who’s on a first date when I’m out for drinks. I spoke to several bartenders across Los Angeles who happily shared the clues that reveal you’re braving a first date and even though I fancy myself a pro at identifying first daters, some are pretty surprising.

While some of these behaviors might make you roll your eyes at your date — like asking detailed questions about wine or leaving the keys to their Audi in plain sight — they’re all done with the same goal in mind First dates can provoke anxiety, after all it’s like a job interview but with emotional stakes. All the bartenders I spoke to expressed compassion for the first daters they’ve served, so keep in mind that your bartender is rooting for you to have a great first date, or at the very least, enjoy your drinks.

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As a bartender, I am no stranger to giving advice. At last count there were at least eight weddings, three divorces, two children born out of wedlock, five children born in wedlock and four very happy same-sex marriages as a direct result of advice from yours truly. So when I saw eHarmony’s article this week on reasons to date a bartender, I was, of course, delighted, but felt someone owed it to the world to balance out this sage advice from a website that results in 5 percent of all marriages in a country with the world’s highest divorce rate.

When you do they will look like they are a hungover and b exhausted. This is because they are a hungover and b exhausted. If the bar has a poor spirit selection, they will be depressed and listless for the rest of your evening.

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They dish on everything from the bathroom bail to the dying art of in-person conversation. Catch them nodding in agreement as you show off your embellished cocktail knowledge; acting with lawyer-like discretion as you bring your third first date through the same bar in a single week; and offering to take over your Tinder account for the night, swiping right as they see fit.

Maybe it continues or maybe it completely dies. Mistakes happen. The wine bar she helps run is a first date magnet. Daters can doodle on a chalkboard-topped bar if conversation stalls. A little bar snack? Megan Shaff , a bartender at Seven Reasons , has also worked at Maydan.

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Subscriber Account active since. Jim Meehan, the author of “Meehan’s Bartender Manual,” said that in the early years of his career, bars weren’t where people went on dates, but where they went to find dates. Nowadays, online dating has changed the game. And as a bartender in the age of dating apps, I’m grateful that I’m spared the horror of seeing real-life Tinder swiping in front of my eyes.

But one painful ritual I’m frequently audience to is the cringeworthy first date. I’ve witnessed countless first dates play out from behind the bar, and I’ve gotten a sense of what works and what doesn’t from both parties.

I want to know what you ladies have experienced dating a bartender or similar. What problems did you encounter if any? Did any of you marry him .

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Likewise, if you think your dude is going to wake up early after a hour shift to whip you up a decadent breakfast in bed, you have probably also tried putting a scrunchie on his junk, and you really ought to stop reading Cosmo. If you ask real nice you might get a special-occasion meal or two, and your bartender-lover might make you a custom cocktail when your relationship is fresh and he or she is trying to impress. But the minute you two are on steady ground, you’re trapped in beer-and-a-shot territory forever, doomed to a life of sandwiches and spaghetti.

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